Confessions of the Other Mother

In "Confessions of the Other Mother," the complex world of motherhood is explored through the eyes of a surrogate who reveals her intimate struggles, profound emotions, and the tangled relationships that come with carrying another woman's child. As she navigates societal expectations and her own desires, readers are drawn into the moral dilemmas and unexpected bonds that emerge. This candid memoir offers a raw look at love, sacrifice, and the blurry lines of motherhood. With heartfelt revelations and poignant insights, it challenges traditional notions of family. Dive into a narrative that promises to shift your perspective on what it truly means to be a mother.

By Harlyn Aizley

Published: 2006

"Love is an act of courage."

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One of the few books to explore lesbian parenting, these “hilarious, heart-wrenching, painfully honest tales of mommyhood” celebrate the ups and downs of being an LGBTQIA+ parent in the 21st century (Joey Solloway, creator of Transparent). After author Harlyn Aizley gave birth to her daughter, she watched in unanticipated horror as her partner scooped up the baby and said, “I'm your new mommy!” While they both had worked to find the perfect sperm donor, Aizley had spent nine months carrying the baby and hours in labor, so how could her partner claim to be their child's mommy? Many diapers later, Aizley began to appreciate the complexity of her partner’s new role as the other mother. Together, they searched for stories about families like their own, in which a woman has chosen to forgo her own birth experience so that she might support her partner in hers. They found very few. Now, in Confessions of the Other Mother, Aizley has put together an exciting collection of personal stories by women like her partner who are creating new parenting roles, redefining motherhood, and reshaping our view of two-parent families. Contributors include Hillary Goodridge, who was one of the lead plaintiffs in the case for same-sex marriage in Massachusetts, stand-up comedian Judy Gold, and psychologist and author Suzanne M. Johnson. This candid peek into a previously unexamined side of lesbian parenting is full of stories that are sometimes humorous, sometimes moving, but at all times celebratory. Each parenting tale sheds light on the many facets of motherhood, offering gay and straight readers alike a deeper understanding of what it means to love and parent in the twenty-first century.

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Harlyn Aizley

Harlyn Aizley is a talented author known for her captivating storytelling and vivid character development. With a background in creative writing and psychology, she weaves complex narratives that explore the intricacies of human relationships and emotions. Harlyn's works often blend elements of fiction and autobiography, inviting readers to reflect on their own experiences. In addition to her writing, she is an advocate for mental health awareness and frequently engages in community workshops. Her debut novel has received critical acclaim, establishing her as a rising voice in contemporary literature.

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Authors
Harlyn Aizley
Published
May 2006
Publisher
Beacon Press
ISBN
0807097330
Language
English
Pages
198
Genres
MotherhoodWomenParenting

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Love is an act of courage.

Confessions of the Other Mother

By Harlyn Aizley

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