How To Think More About Sex
In 'How To Think More About Sex', Alain De Botton invites readers on a provocative exploration of the complexities of human sexuality. Challenging conventional views, he delves into the intersections of love, desire, and modern relationships, prompting us to reflect on our own experiences. The book balances humor and insight, offering philosophical musings alongside practical advice. De Botton’s engaging prose encourages us to confront societal norms and rethink our intimate lives. Prepare to embark on a journey that will leave you questioning what you truly know about the nature of attraction.
By Alain De Botton
Published: 2012
""Sex is not just a physical act; it is a complex exchange of ideas, emotions, and expectations, each encounter revealing the depths of our desires and the shadows of our fears.""
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" ... [In] this rigorous and supremely honest book Alain de Botton helps us navigate the intimate and exciting yet often confusing and difficult experience that is sex. Few of us tend to feel we're entirely normal when it comes to sex, and what we're supposed to be feeling rarely matches up with the reality. This book argues that 21st-century sex is ultimately fated to be a balancing act between love and desire, and adventure and commitment. ..." --Back cover.
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About the Author
Alain De Botton
Alain De Botton is a Swiss-British author, philosopher, and television presenter known for his ability to communicate complex philosophical ideas in an accessible manner. He founded the School of Life, an organization dedicated to developing emotional intelligence through the teachings of philosophy, psychology, and the arts. De Botton's notable works include 'The Architecture of Happiness,' 'How Proust Can Change Your Life,' and 'The Course of Love,' where he explores themes of love, relationships, and the human condition. His writing style is characterized by a blend of narrative, insightful commentary, and reflective prose, making philosophical concepts relatable to a broad audience.
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- Authors
- Alain De Botton
- Published
- May 2012
- Publisher
- Pan Macmillan
- ISBN
- 1447202279
- Language
- English
- Pages
- 162
- Genres
- PhilosophyDating and RomanceSex and RelationshipsRelationship Psychology
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