The Parent Trap

In "The Parenting Trap: How to Fight Back and Raise," the author delves into the complex landscape of modern parenting, exposing the subtle pitfalls that can derail even the most well-intentioned parents. By uncovering societal pressures and common misconceptions, this book empowers readers to reclaim their parenting journey. With relatable anecdotes and practical strategies, it encourages a shift from reactive parenting to a more intentional, confident approach. Prepare to challenge your preconceived notions and discover a path that prioritizes authenticity over perfection. Ready to break free from the parenting traps that hold you back?

By Nate G. Hilger

Published: 2023

"Family isn't just about blood; it's about the connections we choose to make, and the love we nurture along the way."

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How parents have been set up to fail, and why helping them succeed is the key to achieving a fair and prosperous society. A next Big Idea Club nominee. Few people realize that raising children is the single largest industry in the United States. Yet this vital work receives little political support, and its primary workers—parents—labor in isolation. If they ask for help, they are made to feel inadequate; there is no centralized organization to represent their interests; and there is virtually nothing spent on research and development to help them achieve their goals. It’s almost as if parents are set up to fail—and the result is lost opportunities that limit children’s success and make us all worse off. In The Parent Trap, Nate Hilger combines cutting-edge social science research, revealing historical case studies, and on-the-ground investigation to recast parenting as the hidden crucible of inequality. Parents are expected not only to care for their children but to help them develop the skills they will need to thrive in today’s socioeconomic reality—but most parents, including even the most caring parents on the planet, are not trained in skill development and lack the resources to get help. How do we fix this? The solution, Hilger argues, is to ask less of parents, not more. America should consider child development a public investment with a monumental payoff. We need a program like Medicare—call it Familycare—to drive this investment. To make it happen, parents need to organize to wield their political power on behalf of children—who will always be the largest bloc of disenfranchised people in this country. The Parent Trap exposes the true costs of our society’s unrealistic expectations around parenting and lays out a profoundly hopeful blueprint for reform.

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Nate G. Hilger

Nate G. Hilger is a prominent author and researcher known for his work in the fields of economics and education. He earned his Ph.D. in economics from the University of California, Berkeley, where his research explored the intersection of social policy and economic outcomes. Hilger gained widespread recognition for his book, which examines the impact of educational disparities on economic mobility. In addition to his writing, he is an advocate for equitable access to quality education, believing that every child deserves the opportunity to succeed. Through his engaging narratives and data-driven insights, Hilger continues to influence discussions around education reform and economic justice.

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Authors
Nate G. Hilger
Published
April 2023
Publisher
MIT Press
ISBN
0262545942
Language
English
Pages
306
Genres
ParentingParenting Techniques

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Family isn't just about blood; it's about the connections we choose to make, and the love we nurture along the way.

The Parent Trap

By Nate G. Hilger

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