This Is How It Always Is

In 'This Is How It Always Is', Laurie Frankel explores the complexities of family dynamics and the unexpected journey of a young boy named Claude, who wishes to be a girl. Against the backdrop of societal expectations and the pursuit of happiness, the Ripple family grapples with love, secrets, and the fear of the unknown. As they navigate the challenges of acceptance, they discover that the truth can liberate but also complicate their lives in ways they never anticipated. This poignant narrative invites readers to reflect on gender identity, authenticity, and what it truly means to be a family. Will they embrace their child’s truth, or will fear and societal norms dictate their actions?

By Laurie Frankel

Published: 2018

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