Unconditional Parenting
In "Unconditional Parenting," Alfie Kohn challenges traditional discipline methods, advocating instead for a parenting style rooted in compassion and understanding. He argues that unconditional love is the key to fostering responsible, empathetic children who are motivated from within, rather than by rewards or punishments. Kohn explores the detrimental effects of conditional parenting, where affection is tied to behavior, and offers practical strategies for nurturing a more profound connection with your child. Through engaging anecdotes and thought-provoking insights, he invites parents to rethink their approach and prioritize genuine relationship-building. Discover how to raise confident, caring individuals by letting go of control and embracing unconditional support.
By Alfie Kohn
Published: 2006
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