We Are Never Meeting in Real Life.
In 'We Are Never Meeting in Real Life,' Samantha Irby takes readers on a hilarious and candid journey through her life’s awkward experiences and struggles. With a unique blend of humor and vulnerability, she shares her thoughts on relationships, body image, and the quirks of modern life. Irby's sharp wit and relatable anecdotes make you feel as if you're sharing laughs with a close friend. This collection of essays invites you to embrace the absurdities of life while reflecting on the complexities of connection in a digital age. Discover why meeting in person might be overrated, and get ready to giggle at the delightful chaos of living!
By Samantha Irby
Published: 2017
"I don't want to be a cog in your wheel; I want to be the whole damn car, and I'd rather drive it off a cliff than pretend to be someone I'm not."
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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • This essay collection from the “bitches gotta eat” blogger, writer on Hulu’s Shrill, and “one of our country’s most fierce and foulmouthed authors” (Amber Tamblyn, Vulture) is sure to make you alternately cackle with glee and cry real tears. Whether Samantha Irby is talking about how her difficult childhood has led to a problem in making “adult” budgets; explaining why she should be the new Bachelorette (she's "35-ish, but could easily pass for 60-something"); detailing a disastrous pilgrimage-slash-romantic-vacation to Nashville to scatter her estranged father's ashes; sharing awkward sexual encounters; or dispensing advice on how to navigate friendships with former drinking buddies who are now suburban moms (hang in there for the Costco loot!); she’s as deft at poking fun at the ghosts of her past self as she is at capturing powerful emotional truths.
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Samantha Irby
Samantha Irby is a celebrated author, essayist, and screenwriter, known for her sharp wit and candid exploration of life, love, and personal identity. Her notable works include "Meaty," "We Are Never Meeting in Real Life," and "Wow, No Thank You," all of which showcase her unique voice and humor while tackling themes of race, body positivity, and the absurdities of everyday life. Irby's writing style is characterized by its honesty, relatability, and a keen sense of the comedic elements inherent in challenging situations. In addition to her literary achievements, she is a contributor to various publications and serves as a writer and executive producer on the hit television show "Shrill." With a growing body of work, Irby is recognized as a vital voice in contemporary literature.
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- Authors
- Samantha Irby
- Published
- May 2017
- Publisher
- Vintage
- ISBN
- 1101912197
- Language
- English
- Pages
- 290
- Genres
- BiographyLiteraturePersonal GrowthRelationship PsychologyEssays
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