In 'Cupid's Poisoned Arrow,' Marnia Robinson explores the intricate relationship between love and pleasure, revealing how modern romantic expectations can undermine true connection. She delves into the science of desire, explaining how emotional and physical intimacy are intertwined yet often misaligned. The book challenges conventional ideas about love, proposing that genuine affection can flourish when freed from societal pressures. With a blend of psychology, personal anecdotes, and practical advice, Robinson offers a transformative perspective on romantic relationships. Will her insights change the way you view love forever?
By Marnia Robinson
Published: 2009
"Love is not merely a passion to be felt but a practice to be cultivated, where the heart and mind dance together in the pursuit of deeper connection and understanding."
“If you want to be a better lover and have an amazing relationship (now or in the future), Cupid's Poisoned Arrow is a must-read.” —real reader review Eyes met, sparks flew—all fireworks and passion. In the beginning, it felt like magic…but somewhere along the way, the flame burnt out. That cute quirk you used to love doesn’t seem so cute anymore. The connection and fire that brought you together are lost—and you may feel hurt, unsure, or disconnected. You might be trying in vain to change your partner. You may even resign yourself to a passionless fate. Ancient sages recognized the lull in intimacy, passion, and connection that happens in even the most solid relationships—and hinted at the ways we can overcome it. With an entertaining blend of personal experiences, neuroscientific research, and amorous insights from around the world, Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow shows that we can use lovemaking to balance one another—and let harmony arise naturally. Here, you’ll discover the twenty-one Exchanges, a series of intimacy-building activities that can help you and your partner connect on a deeper level. These exchanges speak directly to the part of your brain that can fall in love—and stay in love—and are based on touch, eye contact, and attentiveness. By focusing on generous pampering rather than self-stimulation, you can create a nourishing cocoon of comfort and safety…and deepen your connection through bonding-based intimacy. Incorporating the principles of yin and yang, the Exchanges offer a balanced approach that emphasizes giving and receiving to spark a fulfilling sexual connection between you and your partner. Discover why real readers are saying “It works!” and “I wish I had read this book 10 years ago.” You’ll never look back.
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Marnia Robinson is an acclaimed author and relationship expert known for her thought-provoking works on human sexuality and relational dynamics. She is the author of several notable books, including 'Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships' and 'The Science of Love'. Marnia's writing often blends scientific research with personal insights, creating a compelling narrative that encourages readers to explore the depths of their emotional and sexual experiences. Her distinctive style is characterized by a focus on mindfulness and the importance of emotional connection in fostering fulfilling relationships.
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Cupid's Poisoned Arrow
By Marnia Robinson
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