Friendship

In 'Friendship,' Lydia Denworth uncovers the profound impact of friendships on our health and happiness. Through captivating stories and cutting-edge research, she reveals how connections with others can shape our brains and well-being. Denworth explores the evolutionary roots of friendship, providing insight into why it is essential to our survival. With engaging anecdotes and scientific exploration, the book answers the question of what makes a true friend. Prepare to reassess your relationships and discover the transformative power of friendship.

By Lydia Denworth

Published: 2020

"Friendship is not just a bond; it's a vital force that shapes our lives, connects us in ways we often don't understand, and transforms our journey."

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A Next Big Idea Club Must-Read Nonfiction Book of Winter 2020 and a Real Simple Best Book of 2020 (So Far) A revelatory investigation of friendship, with profound implications for our understanding of what humans and animals alike need to thrive across a lifetime. The phenomenon of friendship is universal and elemental. Friends, after all, are the family we choose. But what makes these bonds not just pleasant but essential, and how do they affect our bodies and our minds? In Friendship, science journalist Lydia Denworth takes us in search of friendship’s biological, psychological, and evolutionary foundations. She finds friendship to be as old as early life on the African savannas—when tribes of people grew large enough for individuals to seek fulfillment of their social needs outside their immediate families. Denworth sees this urge to connect reflected in primates, too, taking us to a monkey sanctuary in Puerto Rico and a baboon colony in Kenya to examine social bonds that offer insight into our own. She meets scientists at the frontiers of brain and genetics research and discovers that friendship is reflected in our brain waves, our genomes, and our cardiovascular and immune systems; its opposite, loneliness, can kill. At long last, social connection is recognized as critical to wellness and longevity. With insight and warmth, Denworth weaves past and present, field biology and neuroscience, to show how our bodies and minds are designed for friendship across life stages, the processes by which healthy social bonds are developed and maintained, and how friendship is changing in the age of social media. Blending compelling science, storytelling, and a grand evolutionary perspective, Denworth delineates the essential role that cooperation and companionship play in creating human (and nonhuman) societies. Friendship illuminates the vital aspects of friendship, both visible and invisible, and offers a refreshingly optimistic vision of human nature. It is a clarion call for putting positive relationships at the center of our lives.

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Lydia Denworth

Lydia Denworth is an award-winning author and journalist known for her insightful explorations of science and human experience. She is the author of several notable works, including "Childhoods End: A Guide to the Science of Parenting in the 21st Century" and "The Link: The Science of Our Affection for Dogs." Denworth’s writing blends personal narrative with rigorous research, making complex scientific concepts accessible to a general audience. Her style is characterized by clarity and warmth, inviting readers to connect deeply with the material.

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Authors
Lydia Denworth
Published
January 2020
Publisher
National Geographic Books
ISBN
0393651541
Language
English
Pages
N/A
Genres
Mental HealthSelf-HelpHealth and WellnessPsychologyEmotional IntelligencePositive Psychology

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Friendship is not just a bond; it's a vital force that shapes our lives, connects us in ways we often don't understand, and transforms our journey.

Friendship

By Lydia Denworth

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