In 'I Don't Want to Talk About It', Terrence Real delves into the hidden struggles of men grappling with vulnerability and emotional disconnect. Through poignant stories and insightful analysis, he reveals how societal expectations shape male identity and hinder authentic communication. The book challenges longstanding stereotypes and invites readers to reconsider the true essence of masculinity. Real's compassionate guidance offers a pathway towards deeper connections and emotional healing. This powerful exploration leaves readers questioning: what happens when men dare to embrace their feelings?
By Terrence Real
Published: 1998
""The true source of our struggle lies not in the events we face but in the stories we tell ourselves about those events.""
A bestseller for over 20 years, I Don’t Want to Talk About It is a groundbreaking and hopeful guide to understanding and destigmatizing male depression, essential not only for men who may be suffering but for the people who love them. Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men—that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of depression’s “un-manliness.” Problems that we think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage—are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children. This groundbreaking book is the “pathway out of darkness” that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixes penetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his own experiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and the father of two young sons.
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“"The true source of our struggle lies not in the events we face but in the stories we tell ourselves about those events."”
I Don't Want to Talk About It
By Terrence Real
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Terrence Real is a renowned author, psychotherapist, and speaker, best known for his influential works in the field of relationships and men's issues. His notable books include 'I Don't Want to Talk About It,' which addresses men's depression, 'The New Rules of Marriage,' and 'How Can I Get Through to You?,' emphasizing the importance of emotional honesty in relationships. Real's writing style is characterized by its practical insights, compassionate approach, and a blend of personal anecdote with psychological theory, aiming to foster understanding and lasting change in interpersonal dynamics.
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