It's OK Not to Share and Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids
In "It’s OK Not to Share," the author challenges conventional parenting wisdom about sharing, inviting readers to reconsider the emotional world of children. Through engaging anecdotes and insightful research, the book reveals how teaching kids to set boundaries can cultivate empathy and stronger relationships. It encourages parents to embrace their children's unique personalities while fostering healthy communication. With a blend of humor and heartfelt advice, the author illustrates that prioritizing emotional intelligence over enforced sharing can lead to happier, well-adjusted kids. Are you ready to rethink how you guide your child through social interactions?
By Heather Shumaker
Published: 2012
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