Mate

In 'Mate', Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller explore the intricate dance of modern relationships, combining humor with groundbreaking science. They delve into evolutionary psychology and social dynamics to reveal what truly attracts us to one another. Through personal anecdotes and research insights, the authors challenge conventional dating advice and offer a fresh perspective on finding love. The book not only entertains but also provides practical strategies for navigating the complexities of intimacy in today’s world. As you turn the pages, prepare to question everything you thought you knew about attraction and partnership.

By Tucker Max, Geoffrey Miller

Published: 2015

""True happiness isn't about finding the right partner; it's about becoming the right partner for yourself first.""

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The #1 bestselling pioneer of "fratire" and a leading evolutionary psychologist team up to create the dating book for guys Whether they conducted their research in life or in the lab, experts Tucker Max and Dr. Geoffrey Miller have spent the last 20+ years learning what women really want from their men, why they want it, and how men can deliver those qualities. The short answer: become the best version of yourself possible, then show it off. It sounds simple, but it's not. If it were, Tinder would just be the stuff you use to start a fire. Becoming your best self requires honesty, self-awareness, hard work and a little help. Through their website and podcasts, Max and Miller have already helped over one million guys take their first steps toward Ms. Right. They have collected all of their findings in Mate, an evidence-driven, seriously funny playbook that will teach you to become a more sexually attractive and romantically successful man, the right way: - No "seduction techniques" - No moralizing - No bullshit Just honest, straightforward talk about the most ethical, effective way to pursue the win-win relationships you want with the women who are best for you. Much of what they've discovered will surprise you, some of it will not, but all of it is important and often misunderstood. So listen up, and stop being stupid!

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Tucker Max

Tucker Max is a bestselling author and entrepreneur, renowned for his unique blend of humor and candid storytelling. He gained fame with his breakout book, 'I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell', which recounts his outrageous experiences and exploits in a raw, unapologetic style. Max's other notable works include 'Assholes Finish First' and 'Hilarity Ensues', both of which delve into his personal adventures while exploring themes of relationships, masculinity, and the absurdities of modern life. Known for his provocative and often controversial narrative voice, Tucker Max has captivated audiences with his unfiltered honesty and wit, establishing himself as a leading figure in contemporary memoir writing.

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Geoffrey Miller

Geoffrey Miller is a prominent author and evolutionary psychologist, renowned for his contributions to the understanding of human behavior and sexuality. He is best known for his books 'The Mating Mind' and 'Spent', in which he explores the theories of sexual selection and the evolutionary mechanisms behind human desires. Miller's writing is characterized by a blend of scientific insight and accessible prose, making complex ideas engaging to a broad audience. Through his works, he challenges conventional thinking about human nature and provides a compelling narrative that intertwines psychology with evolutionary theory.

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Authors
Tucker Max, Geoffrey Miller
Published
September 2015
Publisher
Little, Brown
ISBN
0316375365
Language
English
Pages
N/A
Genres
Self-HelpCommunication in RelationshipsDating and RomanceSex and Relationships

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"True happiness isn't about finding the right partner; it's about becoming the right partner for yourself first."

Mate

By Tucker Max, Geoffrey Miller

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