Mate

In 'Mate', Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller explore the intricate dance of modern relationships, combining humor with groundbreaking science. They delve into evolutionary psychology and social dynamics to reveal what truly attracts us to one another. Through personal anecdotes and research insights, the authors challenge conventional dating advice and offer a fresh perspective on finding love. The book not only entertains but also provides practical strategies for navigating the complexities of intimacy in today’s world. As you turn the pages, prepare to question everything you thought you knew about attraction and partnership.

By Tucker Max, Geoffrey Miller

Published: 2015

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