In 'Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me)', Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson explore the psychological mechanisms of self-justification and the often-unconscious ways we avoid admitting our wrongs. With compelling examples from history, psychology, and personal anecdotes, the authors reveal why people, from individuals to large organizations, refuse to accept accountability. This thought-provoking book challenges readers to confront their own biases and the cognitive dissonance that influences decision-making. Will you choose to embrace the discomfort of acknowledging your mistakes? Dive into this enlightening read and discover the profound impact of accountability on personal growth and relationships.
By Elliot Aronson, Carol Tavris
Published: 2015
""We are all vulnerable to the human tendency to rationalize our mistakes, but understanding this tendency can empower us to grow and change for the better.""
"This edition has a new preface and conclusion, as well as updated research and examples"--
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Elliot Aronson is a renowned social psychologist and author, best known for his influential works on social behavior, persuasion, and group dynamics. His notable books include 'The Social Animal,' which explores the intricacies of human relationships and social influence, and 'Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me),' co-authored with Carol Tavris, which delves into cognitive dissonance and self-justification. Aronson's writing style is characterized by clarity and accessibility, blending empirical research with real-world applications, making complex psychological concepts comprehensible to a broad audience. In addition to his scholarly contributions, he has played a significant role in educating future generations of psychologists as a professor at the University of California, Santa Cruz.
Carol Tavris is a renowned social psychologist, author, and speaker, known for her insightful work in the fields of psychology and feminist theory. With a Ph.D. in social psychology, Tavris has written several influential books, including "The Mismeasure of Woman," which challenges misconceptions about gender differences, and "Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me)," a gripping exploration of cognitive dissonance and self-justification. Her writing is characterized by its clarity, wit, and ability to engage both academic and mainstream audiences. Tavris frequently contributes to publications such as the New York Times and Psychology Today, where she applies psychological principles to contemporary issues.
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