Permission to Feel

In 'Permission to Feel', Marc Brackett presents a revolutionary approach to understanding emotions, arguing that acknowledging feelings is the key to emotional intelligence and well-being. Through personal anecdotes and scientific research, he showcases how embracing our emotions can enhance our relationships, decision-making, and creativity. Brackett introduces the RULER framework, a practical tool for recognizing, understanding, labeling, expressing, and regulating emotions. This insightful guide challenges societal norms that often suppress emotional expression, inviting readers to reclaim their emotional health. Dive into a transformative journey that empowers you to feel fully and live authentically.

By Marc Brackett

Published: 2019

"Feelings are not just experiences to be ignored; they are the language of our emotions, guiding us toward clarity, connection, and self-discovery."

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The mental wellbeing of children and adults is shockingly poor. Marc Brackett, author of PERMISSION TO FEEL, knows why. And he knows what we can do. "We have a crisis on our hands, and its victims are our children." Marc Brackett is a professor in Yale University’s Child Study Center and founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. In his 25 years as an emotion scientist, he has developed a remarkably effective plan to improve the lives of children and adults – a blueprint for understanding our emotions and using them wisely so that they help, rather than hinder, our success and well-being. The core of his approach is a legacy from his childhood, from an astute uncle who gave him permission to feel. He was the first adult who managed to see Marc, listen to him, and recognize the suffering, bullying, and abuse he’d endured. And that was the beginning of Marc’s awareness that what he was going through was temporary. He wasn’t alone, he wasn’t stuck on a timeline, and he wasn’t “wrong” to feel scared, isolated, and angry. Now, best of all, he could do something about it. In the decades since, Marc has led large research teams and raised tens of millions of dollars to investigate the roots of emotional well being. His prescription for healthy children (and their parents, teachers, and schools) is a system called RULER, a high-impact and fast-effect approach to understanding and mastering emotions that has already transformed the thousands of schools that have adopted it. RULER has been proven to reduce stress and burnout, improve school climate, and enhance academic achievement. This book is the culmination of Marc’s development of RULER and his way to share the strategies and skills with readers around the world. It is tested, and it works. This book combines rigor, science, passion and inspiration in equal parts. Too many children and adults are suffering; they are ashamed of their feelings and emotionally unskilled, but they don’t have to be. Marc Brackett’s life mission is to reverse this course, and this book can show you how.

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Marc Brackett

Marc Brackett is an esteemed author, psychologist, and researcher known for his work in the field of emotional intelligence. He is the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor in the Child Study Center at Yale University. Brackett is the author of the acclaimed book 'Permission to Feel,' which emphasizes the importance of emotional awareness and regulation in personal and professional contexts. His writing style is accessible and engaging, blending scientific insights with practical applications, making complex psychological concepts relatable to a broad audience. Brackett's contributions extend beyond literature; he has developed programs to help educators and students cultivate emotional intelligence, driving positive change in schools and communities.

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Authors
Marc Brackett
Published
September 2019
Publisher
Celadon Books
ISBN
1250212847
Language
English
Pages
320
Genres
Self-HelpHealth and WellnessStress ManagementEmotional IntelligencePersonal Growth

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Feelings are not just experiences to be ignored; they are the language of our emotions, guiding us toward clarity, connection, and self-discovery.

Permission to Feel

By Marc Brackett

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