The Intentional Family:

In "The Intentional Family," author William J. Doherty challenges conventional notions of family life, encouraging readers to actively shape their family dynamics with purpose and deliberation. With insightful strategies and real-world examples, Doherty reveals how families can create meaningful rituals and traditions that strengthen bonds and foster resilience. He explores the power of shared values and intentional communication, empowering parents to lead with intention rather than defaulting to societal norms. This thought-provoking guide inspires readers to cultivate deeper connections and navigate the complexities of modern family life. Discover how to transform your family into a cohesive unit that thrives on intention and love – are you ready to embark on this journey?

By William J. Doherty

Published: 1999

"The Intentional Family emphasizes the importance of creating a family culture that aligns with your values and priorities."

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Today's family is in crisis. Many diverse factors have combined to weaken its structure in American society: the conflicting needs and schedules of dual working parents; the ongoing fragmentation of our civic, cultural, and religious communities; the prevalence of divorce and remarriage; the advent of technological distractions like video games and computers. What was once a strong, cohesive unit has become, in many cases, no more than a loose grouping of individuals with individual timetables and agendas. However, now more that ever before, we have the freedom to shape the kind of family we want, rather that an obligation to conform to inflexible concepts of what a family should be. Nationally respected family therapist William J. Doherty believes that we can strengthen the ties that bind us together-and create new, more permanent ones in the process-through the use of family-specific everyday rituals. The Intentional Family -- a practical guide to avoiding conflicts and promoting understanding -- offers a myriad of simple yet effective methods for opening regular channels of communication between parents and their children, husbands and wives: from shared family meals and vacations, to regular "storytime," weekly drives, religious services, and monthly "spouse only" romantic dinners. Clearly presented and engagingly written, here are proven and indispensable strategies for reviving a lost sense of family -- useful guidelines that will help us make the most of our most important relationships.

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William J. Doherty

William J. Doherty is a distinguished author and psychologist known for his contributions to family therapy and community engagement. With a career spanning several decades, he has published numerous books and articles addressing the complexities of family dynamics and the importance of cultivating strong community ties. Doherty is a professor at the University of Minnesota, where he leads initiatives to promote healthy relationships and effective communication within families. He is also a sought-after speaker, sharing his insights at conferences and workshops across the country. Through his work, Doherty continues to inspire individuals and communities to foster resilience and connection in an increasingly fragmented world.

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Authors
William J. Doherty
Published
October 1999
Publisher
William Morrow Paperbacks
ISBN
038073205X
Language
English
Pages
240
Genres
Parent Child CommunicationParenting

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The Intentional Family emphasizes the importance of creating a family culture that aligns with your values and priorities.

The Intentional Family:

By William J. Doherty

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