In 'The Courage to Be Disliked', renowned philosopher Ichiro Kishimi and psychologist Fumitake Koga present a transformative dialogue between a young man and a wise philosopher. They explore the concept of Alfred Adler's psychology, emphasizing that happiness is a choice and freedom comes from the courage to be oneself. The profound insights challenge conventional beliefs about identity, relationships, and the burden of past traumas. As they delve into the meaning of true self-acceptance, the narrative invites readers to confront their own insecurities and societal expectations. This engaging exchange sparks curiosity and inspires a new outlook on personal growth and fulfillment.
By Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga
Published: 2018
"Happiness is the moment when you decide to be yourself."
“Marie Kondo, but for your brain.” —HelloGiggles “Compelling from front to back. Highly recommend.” —Marc Andreessen Reading this book could change your life. The Courage to Be Disliked, already an enormous bestseller in Asia with more than 3.5 million copies sold, demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Is happiness something you choose for yourself? The Courage to Be Disliked presents a simple and straightforward answer. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of nineteenth-century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, this book follows an illuminating dialogue between a philosopher and a young man. Over the course of five conversations, the philosopher helps his student to understand how each of us is able to determine the direction of our own life, free from the shackles of past traumas and the expectations of others. Rich in wisdom, The Courage to Be Disliked will guide you through the concepts of self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering. It is a deeply liberating way of thinking, allowing you to develop the courage to change and ignore the limitations that you might be placing on yourself. This plainspoken and profoundly moving book unlocks the power within you to find lasting happiness and be the person you truly want to be. Millions have already benefited from its teachings, now you can too.
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Ichiro Kishimi is a prominent Japanese author and philosopher, best known for his influential works in the field of psychology and self-help. His most notable work, co-authored with Fumitake Koga, is 'The Courage to Be Disliked,' which draws on the principles of Alfred Adler’s theories and has achieved international acclaim. Kishimi's writing style is characterized by its engaging dialogue and philosophical depth, making complex psychological concepts accessible to a wide audience. Through his works, he encourages readers to embrace their freedom and responsibility in shaping their lives.
Fumitake Koga is a renowned Japanese author and motivational speaker, best known for his impactful writings on personal development and self-improvement. His notable works include "The Courage to Be Disliked" co-authored with Ichiro Kishimi, which explores the principles of Adlerian psychology and encourages readers to embrace their individuality. Koga's writing style is characterized by its clarity and conversational tone, making complex psychological concepts accessible to a broad audience. He aims to inspire readers to challenge societal expectations and achieve psychological freedom.
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The Courage to Be Disliked
By Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga
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