Tough Love

In "Tough Love," the author delves into the complex interplay of compassion and discipline, revealing how genuine care often requires hard truths. Through gripping anecdotes and insightful analysis, readers discover the transformative power of honest connections in relationships. Each chapter challenges conventional notions of love, pushing the boundaries of what it means to truly support someone. As stories unfold, you'll find yourself questioning your own definitions of kindness and accountability. Prepare for a thought-provoking journey that blends heartache and healing, leaving you eager for more revelations about the strength found in vulnerability.

By Susan Rice

Published: 2020

""In the face of adversity, love isn't just an emotion; it's a commitment to courage, compassion, and the relentless pursuit of justice.""

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Recalling pivotal moments from her dynamic career on the front lines of American diplomacy and foreign policy, Susan E. Rice—National Security Advisor to President Barack Obama and US Ambassador to the United Nations—reveals her surprising story with unflinching candor in this New York Times bestseller. Mother, wife, scholar, diplomat, and fierce champion of American interests and values, Susan Rice powerfully connects the personal and the professional. Taught early, with tough love, how to compete and excel as an African American woman in settings where people of color are few, Susan now shares the wisdom she learned along the way. Laying bare the family struggles that shaped her early life in Washington, DC, she also examines the ancestral legacies that influenced her. Rice’s elders—immigrants on one side and descendants of slaves on the other—had high expectations that each generation would rise. And rise they did, but not without paying it forward—in uniform and in the pulpit, as educators, community leaders, and public servants. Susan too rose rapidly. She served throughout the Clinton administration, becoming one of the nation’s youngest assistant secretaries of state and, later, one of President Obama’s most trusted advisors. Rice provides an insider’s account of some of the most complex issues confronting the United States over three decades, ranging from “Black Hawk Down” in Somalia to the genocide in Rwanda and the East Africa embassy bombings in the late 1990s, and from conflicts in Libya and Syria to the Ebola epidemic, a secret channel to Iran, and the opening to Cuba during the Obama years. With unmatched insight and characteristic bluntness, she reveals previously untold stories behind recent national security challenges, including confrontations with Russia and China, the war against ISIS, the struggle to contain the fallout from Edward Snowden’s NSA leaks, the U.S. response to Russian interference in the 2016 election, and the surreal transition to the Trump administration. Although you might think you know Susan Rice—whose name became synonymous with Benghazi following her Sunday news show appearances after the deadly 2012 terrorist attacks in Libya—now, through these pages, you truly will know her for the first time. Often mischaracterized by both political opponents and champions, Rice emerges as neither a villain nor a victim, but a strong, resilient, compassionate leader. Intimate, sometimes humorous, but always candid, Tough Love makes an urgent appeal to the American public to bridge our dangerous domestic divides in order to preserve our democracy and sustain our global leadership.

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Susan Rice is an accomplished American diplomat and public policy expert, known for her role as the U.S. National Security Advisor from 2013 to 2017 under President Barack Obama. She previously served as the U.S. Ambassador to the United Nations, where she advocated for multilateral solutions to global challenges. A Rhodes Scholar and graduate of Stanford University and the University of Oxford, Rice has a deep background in international relations and governance. In addition to her government service, she is a prolific writer and speaker, offering insights on foreign policy and social issues. Susan Rice's memoir, "Tough Love," reflects on her personal and professional experiences, highlighting her commitment to public service and social justice.

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Authors
Susan Rice
Published
August 2020
Publisher
Simon & Schuster
ISBN
1501189980
Language
English
Pages
560
Genres
Self-HelpOvercoming Relationship ChallengesCommunication in RelationshipsSex and Relationships

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"In the face of adversity, love isn't just an emotion; it's a commitment to courage, compassion, and the relentless pursuit of justice."

Tough Love

By Susan Rice

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