Why Are We Yelling?

In 'Why Are We Yelling?', Buster Benson explores the anatomy of arguments and the hidden reasons behind our tendency to escalate conflict. With wit and insight, he dissects the psychology of shouting matches, revealing how they stem from a longing to connect rather than a desire to destroy. The book offers intriguing strategies for transforming heated discussions into constructive conversations. Readers will discover the power of listening as a tool to diffuse tension and foster understanding. Ultimately, Benson challenges us to rethink our approach to disagreement, making this a must-read for anyone eager to improve their communication skills.

By Buster Benson

Published: 2019

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