Why Won't You Apologize?
In 'Why Won't You Apologize?', psychologist Harriet Lerner delves into the complex dynamics of apology and forgiveness. With profound insights, she reveals why so many struggle to say they're sorry and the psychological barriers that often prevent genuine apologies. Each chapter is filled with anecdotes and research, making readers re-evaluate their own approaches to conflict and reconciliation. Lerner empowers us to break free from the toxic cycles of shame and resentment, offering practical tools to foster authentic connections. This compelling exploration encourages introspection and inspires a journey towards healing and understanding.
By Harriet Lerner
Published: 2017
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